Remove Grasshoppers From Your Social Networks


As children, most of us read the fable of The Grasshopper And The Ant. For those who were resistant to believing this, the bizarre, indignant “grasshopper” responses to the recent No Wedding, No Womb initiative confirmed that the African-Americans collective is mostly composed of grasshoppers. Grasshoppers who act and live as if they:

  • Don’t understand that out of wedlock births (oow) and the single parenting that is the logical, predictable result of oow, has engulfed the African-American collective in destructive flames.
  • Don’t understand that sex is the leading cause of pregnancy, far ahead of in vitro fertilization and immaculate conception.
  • Don’t understand that several millennia of human experience have shown that human pair-bonding (also known as marriage), and the extended family obligations created by marriage, represent the best human practice for child-rearing.
  • Don’t understand that “programs” cannot replace family.
  • Don’t understand that the last few decades of “programs” have not worked; even in the context of a functioning economy. The economy is no longer functioning.
  • Don’t understand that the federal and state governments don’t have the money to pay for current “programs.” They certainly don’t have the money for additional “programs.” Nor is there any desire on the part of the rest of the US population to subsidize African-Americans’ dysfunction with additional programs to accommodate our mass, self-destructive refusal to form families.
  • Don’t understand that there’s already a time-tested, widely-known, and commonly-practiced human “program” that provides “support systems” for women and their children. It’s called marriage and (legitimate) family.
  • Don’t understand that, after 40+ years of our whining, other Americans are not going to rearrange their society to accommodate African-Americans’ refusal to form families. This restructuring won’t happen now, or any time in the foreseeable future. Other people will simply continue to leave us behind. To die in our foolishness.

I say “act and live as if” because I’m not entirely convinced the majority of Black women grasshoppers sincerely believe this foolishness they spout. I believe that many of them adopt grasshopper ideology because doing otherwise would mean the end of “nuthin’ but a brother” business as usual. Adhering to normal, human standards for mate selection and procreation would mean acknowledging that the vast majority of African-American males are unfit and unwilling to function as men by serving as competent protectors and providers.

Once an African-American woman acknowledges this fact, the next logical step is for her to expand her dating and marriage options to include non-Black men the global village. Doing that would require a woman to leave the (false) comfort zone of the devil(s) she knows. However, in the end, the reasons don’t matter. The point is that those who are naysayers to the basic, human norm of “no wedding, no womb” are grasshoppers to be avoided.


The grasshopper died because of his foolishness in early versions of the fable. In real life, grasshoppers are generally allowed to destroy themselves. More sensible creatures (the “ants”) don’t have the time, resources, or energy to waste on fools. I suggest that you also don’t waste much time and energy on grasshoppers. Let the grasshoppers live in denial and delusion. They’re irrelevant to everything that matters; including your efforts to move forward in the real world. However, it is important to remove any remaining grasshoppers from your social networks.


The blog host of Sovereign Man recently talked about the importance of building trusted networks in these turbulent times. He said,

In my own experience, I’ve found that I have very little in common with the people who share the color of my passport, and that I have much more in common with those I’ve met around the world who share my outlook and philosophy.

Moreover, this trusted network of individuals around the world, wherever they happen to be based, has often made the difference between success and failure in my life.

As we go through the Age of Turmoil and experiences rapid change and fluctuating crises, I think that having a trusted network will become even more important. The cliche ‘it’s not what you know, it’s who you know,’ is absolutely true… perhaps more so in difficult times.

Lately, I’ve written extensively about why becoming self-reliant is ultimately the way to survive and thrive in the Age of Turmoil… and this is absolutely true. But as ironic as it may sound, I think that building a trusted network is one of the key pillars to achieving self-reliance.

Let me begin by saying that there is a critical difference between building a trusted network, and expecting others to take care of you. The former is a position of strength, the latter is a position of weakness. If you build a network where you are a valued member of the team, you are an asset, not a liability.

. . . It’s much easier to face the world, particularly in the Age of Turmoil, knowing that the people on your team are a carefully selected group of dependable men and women who share your core values and have important skills.

By definition, grasshoppers are liabilities. They reject common sense, and the accumulated wisdom of millennia of human experience. Male and female African-American grasshoppers are already using their female relatives as a primary source of sustenance for their grasshopper lifestyles and out of wedlock offspring. Grasshoppers are also angrily demanding that additional “programs” be established to sustain them. “Programs” = YOU and MORE of your resources that you worked hard to create. Instead of getting agitated about their foolishness, be happy that many previously-unknown, undercover grasshoppers have outed themselves as having grasshopper beliefs.

Cut the grasshoppers loose.

September 29, 2010   79 Comments

Joining Better Networks, Part 4: Go Where Your Desired Network Goes

This is the fourth chapter of an ongoing series of posts about how to become a welcomed member of productive networks. Humans are social animals, and always cluster into various groups. Unless you’re a hermit, you’re a member of various (sometimes overlapping) groups. These networks vary in size, purpose, and effectiveness.

Most African-American women need to find and join new, healthy networks in the global village. Because their current all-Black networks tend to be accidentally chosen, non-reciprocating, and often downright destructive. However, to join productive networks, most African-American women will need to change the way they approach networking. Most importantly, they will need to change their understanding of the entire process.


In Part 1 of this series, I mentioned the Sovereign Man blog, and suggested that you get a copy of his free report Network Infiltration: The Secrets to Becoming a Welcomed Member of The Most Exclusive Networks in the World. On page 8 of this report, he makes the following important point:

Go where your network goes—whether that means a private club, conference, award ceremony, etc.

He’s right. If you’re serious about joining a certain network, you need to be where they are. Which leads to a a point raised by a reader named Nina in a slightly different context.


During an earlier conversation, Nina said,

I am now advertising myself as an expert whole foods shopper. So many people are trying to do better but they’re mind-boggled by the sheer abundance of foods in the markets. I aim to make it easier and guide in whole foods selection, and navigating the mess of packaged foods and junk foods in disguise. (I am my best advertisement because I maintain a very healthy weight, I am very fit, and possess a happy and healthy glow, and I love food shopping. You may offer make-up shopping, clothes shopping/fashion styling, home decor shopping…Whatever service you choose to offer, look your part, and aim to look it effortlessly. People will pay to “be like you” granted they like what they see.)

She’s right. It’s essential to look like you already belong to the desired network (or category of persons, such as a radiantly healthy nutrition expert, and so on).


There are additional layers of complexity when it comes to networking and positioning as an African-American business owner. As discussed in my book, the reality is that non-Blacks don’t want to patronize Black-owned businesses. And neither do African-Americans! As mentioned in the book and during this earlier conversation, African-American business owners need to position their businesses as “colorless” in order to tap into the larger pool of non-Black consumers. For all practical purposes, nobody (Black or non-Black) knowingly or willingly patronizes visibly African-American owned businesses. In the beginning, I believe most consumers have to be tricked into doing this. They have to be tricked into thinking they’re dealing with a White-owned business. This strategy works well with online businesses (which are essentially “faceless” businesses).

This is also why many of the African-American attorneys I know who are in private practice use a White “front” associate. The White front person is the initial public face of the firm, gets the business, and the Black attorney does the actual work. Successfully controlling a non-Black front person adds yet another layer of complications. During Part 3 of this series, a reader (and long-term Black business owner) named Karen mentioned several important considerations about all of this in a reply to another reader. Karen said,

I faced the same hurdles, and I was able to bypass them via my “white networks.” It took me 18 months after I started my business to really get a foothold after that, it has been through networking and of course excellent performance that has now enabled doors to be opened and to get contracts (in some cases before they are even given out for bid).

No, it is not easy.

I do not know what types of networks you have but perhaps you could investigate what professional business networks (i.e. white) would be of help. Offer “limited, free” one-time offering to be able to demonstrate what you can do. I am in several professional associations and have many networks based on professional and personal interests (both lead to business opportunities).

Do you have “private networks” that include the type of people you want to do business with? It all ties in together…

The move to hire a white marketing director is not a bad one but make sure that you hold the “keys to the kingdom.” You do not want that person to run off with your ideas and run you out of business. That means “non-disclosure agreements” and a minimum 18-month period that they cannot enter into competition with you. This also means that you need to have financial penalties in there if they violate the agreements, it needs to be significant enough to discourage any attempt to undermine you.

Check with an attorney to see what the laws dictate, however most big companies that want to protect their intellectual property have similar clauses/agreements.

Do you have written references of prior work done? Is this visible on your website or marketing materials?

There are so many factors that can play into closing the deal or not, but here are some aspects to consider.

None of this is fair. None of this is right. However, the business terrain for Black business owners is what it is. As I said in the book,

Understand and conquer your terrain. It’s not the same as it is for non-Black business owners. Don’t directly try to attack and overcome customer racism and irrational resistance (including Black customers’ anti-Black racism). Don’t waste your time lamenting or arguing about the slave mentality that creates this situation for African-American business owners. Gracefully sidestep all of that madness by either having a colorless business, or by being secretive about the fact that your business is Black-owned. Work around this consumer racism and irrational resistance.

As Karen wisely said, it all ties in together.

July 27, 2010   4 Comments

Joining Better Networks, Part 3: “Will Your Children Grow Up To Be Servants And Nannies?”

This is the third chapter of an ongoing series of posts about how to become a welcomed member of productive networks. Humans are social animals, and always cluster into various groups. Unless you’re a hermit, you’re a member of various (sometimes overlapping) groups. These networks vary in size, purpose, and effectiveness.

Most African-American women need to find and join new, healthy networks in the global village. Because their current all-Black networks tend to be accidentally chosen, non-reciprocating, and often downright destructive. However, to join productive networks, most African-American women will need to change the way they approach networking. Most importantly, they will need to change their understanding of the entire process.

Now is a good time to pause, and reflect on the long-terms repercussions of positioning and network choices. Several recent articles have raised important questions. One writer discusses why he believes future job markets will become even more polarized in Will Your Children Grow Up to Be Servants And Nannies?. For readers who prefer policy wonk articles, here’s one from the Brookings Institution, The Polarization of Job Opportunities in the U.S. Labor Market: Implications For Employment and Earnings.

I believe the authors of the 1997 book, The Sovereign Individual, were correct in many of their predictions. I also agree with Parag Khanna, who argues that we’re transitioning into a neo-medieval era.

Which position would you prefer? Noblewoman or vassal?

July 24, 2010   32 Comments

Semester At Sea

The Semester at Sea program is a wonderful opportunity for college-aged African-American women to complete a semester of coursework while traveling the world, and positioning themselves to enjoy everything the global village has to offer. There’s also a program for lifelong learners.

I greatly appreciate it when readers send me information about programs such as Semester at Sea. However, I wanted to make some things clear before I started publicly passing along this sort of information. Too many African-Americans automatically assume that having any and every other African-American go abroad is a good thing. It’s not. Not if that African-American person is making enemies for us, or otherwise damaging our collective image. I discussed these concerns during a post at the previous blog where I mentioned,

Stop Assuming that Black Men Ascending into Prominent Overseas Positions is a Good Thing

As a people, African-Americans just loooove to see a Black man get a prominent job. It makes us feel all warm and fuzzy. Our chests poke out, we raise our heads a little higher, and acquire a new bounce in our steps at such news.

We assume that having Black men in prominent positions is a good thing. We assume that more Black men having the ability to travel and live overseas is a good thing.

Sometimes Black men going overseas is not a good thing. In fact, in many cases it’s a VERY BAD thing. It’s very bad for our international image as Black people. It’s also very bad for this country’s national security.

DBRBM are busy making enemies overseas for the rest of us as African-Americans. They are busy making enemies for ALL Americans. We don’t realize this because, like most Americans, we don’t pay attention to international news stories.

But the foreigners that DBRBM harm remember. As well as their families, friends, and entire societies. The same way we remember atrocities committed by foreigners here.

Andrew Warren: Former CIA Station Chief in Algeria, Muslim Convert, Alleged Rapist

Consider the case of a Negro named Andrew Warren. As the Los Angeles Times story notes, until he was removed from his post, this individual served as the CIA’s top official in Algeria until late 2008. He had previously held high-level positions in Afghanistan and Egypt. Los Angeles Times, January 29, 2009, “CIA chief in Algeria recalled amid investigation”:

“Warren was described as a highly gifted officer, a convert to Islam who demonstrated a rare ability to blend in among Muslim communities across several countries.

‘He’s exactly the guy we need out in the field,’ said a senior U.S. government official who had met with the accused officer in Algiers last summer before the scandal emerged. ‘He’s African-American. He’s Muslim. He speaks the language. He seemed well put together, sharp and experienced.'”

[Yes, exactly the type of Black man that we get very excited about due his surface attributes. He is probably also yet another example of a DBRBM Sunni Muslim.]

The LA Times story notes that “Algeria is considered a top priority in the intelligence community because it has been a haven for Al Qaeda in the Islamic Maghreb, a group that has pledged allegiance to Osama bin Laden’s terrorist network. The North African group was blamed for an August bombing outside Algiers that killed more than 40 people.”

It seems that this Negro was allegedly putting date rape drugs in women’s drinks, and then sexually assaulting them. [Shades of Dr. William H. Cosby, Ph.D.]

This story has also been covered by Al Jazeera: [Raised fist salute to our outstanding researcher, Lorraine, for bringing the Andrew Warren news story to my attention!]

This type of mess is at the high end. Pause for a moment to consider what the droves of low level DBRBM in the U.S. military are doing all over the planet. {shudder}

The Sorrows of Okinawa: U.S. Military Base = DBRBM Rapists’ Fraternity House

The list of rapes committed by U.S. servicemen in Okinawa is endless, and continues up to this day. I’ll focus on one incident that caused U.S. President Bill Clinton to have an emergency meeting with the Japanese Prime Minister.

From Wikipedia:

“The 1995 Okinawan rape incident refers to a rape that took place on September 4, 1995, when three U.S. servicemen, U.S. Navy Seaman Marcus Gill and U.S. Marines Rodrico Harp and Kendrick Ledet, all from Camp Hansen on Okinawa, rented a van and kidnapped a 12-year-old 6th-grade Japanese girl.

They beat her, duct-taped her eyes and mouth shut, and bound her hands. Gill and Harp then proceeded to rape her, while Ledet claims he only pretended to do so out of fear of Gill. The incident led to further debate over the continued presence of U.S. forces in Japan. ”

Of course, their relatives whined that there was racism involved in their prosecution.

From the November 6, 1995, New York Times story, “Accused Marines’ Kin Incredulous”: “‘It’s very disappointing and frustrating,’ said Kim Cannon, Private Ledet’s sister, who is a deputy sheriff in Fulton County, Ga. ‘It’s political and it’s racial. We’re all black and we all come from small towns. I’m looking at three young black men who may face life in prison, and I just don’t think this would be happening if they were white.'”

[Again, our familiar mantra: “young Black men.” Doesn’t your heart just bleed for them?]

Hmmm . . . Let’s see what happened after they all served their time in Japanese prisons (foreign prisons usually don’t play with inmates, by the way!):

From Wikipedia:

“The three men served prison terms in Japanese prisons and were released in 2003 and then given dishonorable discharges from the military. After release, Rodrico Harp decried prison conditions in Japan and said that the electronics assembly prison labor he was forced to do amounted to slave labor.” [Mournful sounds of violins playing in the background.]

“Ledet, who had claimed he did not rape the girl, died in 2006 in an apparent murder-suicide in the United States. He was found in the third-floor apartment of Lauren Cooper, a junior Kennesaw State University student and acquaintance whom he had apparently sexually assaulted and then murdered (by strangulation). It appears that he then took his own life by slashing his wrists.”

[Gee, I wonder what Ledet’s sister had to say after this final incident. Was this “political and racial” too? Yep. They all sure sound like innocent men who were convicted on trumped up charges. Right.]

We Must Make Ourselves Distinct From DBRBM and The “Acting Black” Crew

All of the above is yet another example of why we must make every effort to establish ourselves as separate and distinct from DBRBM and the negative “Acting Black” Crew. Often, we have no idea of the overall negative impression of Blacks that has already been established by these Black miscreants while they were overseas. You DON’T want to reap what these creatures have sown for ALL of us in foreign countries!

*Addendum*At minimum, we must STOP doing our traditional, knee-jerk “Let’s Rally Around Scum” dance. Including scum like the DBRBM (mentioned in the blog cited below) who raped several women while on duty and in uniform as a Los Angeles police officer.

*Update* For the curious, our intrepid researcher Lorraine has found a link with a picture of Ledet and his final victim. [Yes, she was White.] Here is the link :

The comments in the link point to another disturbing aspect of all of this: There might not be any mechanism in place to ensure that these creatures are automatically registered as sexual predators once they return to the United States. Lord have mercy.

Similar concerns apply to random African-American women

Please screen every young woman before you mention the Semester at Sea program to her. It’s NOT helpful to future Sojourners to recommend these programs to young African-American women like former Harvard students Brittany Smith (who was indicted earlier this year) or Chanequa Campbell. Or young African-American women like Kemba Smith.

Here’s what’s going to happen if we continue sending young African-American women like the above into other settings: Eventually, White universities and programs will complete the process of replacing African-American students with foreign-origin Blacks. Which was discussed at the previous blog during the post Charity Should Begin At Home, Part 1-Study: Universities Prefer Foreign Black Students. Quiet as it’s kept, universities know the average African young woman is not going to move men into her dorm room, or bring drug dealers onto a campus, or allegedly hide drug dealers’ guns on campus.

So, please . . . don’t squander these precious opportunities by blindly recommending them to African-American women who believe the world owes them something. Or who are unable to listen with humility.

July 21, 2010   33 Comments

Joining Better Networks, Part 2: Learn To Listen With Humility

This is the second chapter of an ongoing series of posts about how to become a welcomed member of productive networks. Humans are social animals, and always cluster into various groups. Unless you’re a hermit, you’re a member of various (sometimes overlapping) groups. These networks vary in size, purpose, and effectiveness.

Most African-American women need to find and join new, healthy networks in the global village. Because their current all-Black networks tend to be accidentally chosen, non-reciprocating, and often downright destructive. However, to join productive networks, most African-American women will need to change the way they approach networking. Most importantly, they will need to change their understanding of the entire process.

During Part 1, a reader named TertiaryAnna anticipated this chapter in the series when she said,

I think it’s also important to seem moldable. If a newbie looks like a potential protege, that can be more helpful than a newbie who is inflexible and can’t be taught. You don’t want to appear both inexperienced and unteachable.

This sums up the point of today’s chapter. To succeed, you have to be willing to take the initiative. But you also have to be willing to take direction at times. You have to be willing to listen with humility.

Part of the reason there is little mentoring among African-Americans is because most modern African-Americans make it clear that they are unteachable. People are not willing to be bothered with functioning as elders and mentors for most modern African-Americans because nobody can tell them anything. They’re too arrogant to listen, and it’s too much of a hassle to engage with them. On any level. Meanwhile, they whine about how nobody’s mentoring them or “passing the baton to them.”

Their modern attitude is contrary to traditional, “old school” African-American culture. Those African-Americans who are 40 or older are The Last Generation of African-Americans in so many ways. First, during our youth we weren’t passively waiting for somebody to pass a baton. If you became aware of something that needed to be dealt with, you simply started doing something about it. This is how many antiapartheid student organizations got started when I was in college. We didn’t wait for older activists to pass batons to us.

We followed up our initiative by actively seeking elders to consult with. We sought the advice of activist elders. And when activist elders told us something, we listened! We asked them (particularly those who were Black South Africans) what they felt were the most useful things we could do. And then we did the things they had suggested. This is another way that we are The Last Generation of African-Americans. We are the last generation who were raised to listen to people who were older than us. Not to automatically buy into whatever was said, but to listen and evaluate. We were raised to understand that folks who were several peer groups older than us had some life experiences that we could benefit from.

We also understood that since we were the ones benefiting from them choosing to share any information with us, it was on us to work to understand the message. They had no obligation to tell us anything, much less life-enhancing information. It certainly wasn’t their responsibility to sugarcoat or spoon-feed the life-enhancing information they shared with us. I was reminded of this during a recent exchange I had with a commenter,

Commenter: I think you are misinterpreting what I’m saying. By calling women’s choices foolish and since many women have already made such “foolish choices,” you disincentive people from listening to what you have to say.

Me: [Commenter], I like a dissenter with a sense of humor and grace! 🙂 Thanks for stopping by! . . . First of all, common sense dictates that it’s on the person who needs help to listen, NOT on others to tailor life-saving and life-enhancing information to suit the foolish person’s fancy.

Keeping in mind the above common-sense observation of “who needs what from whom,” I’m not interested in begging fools to listen to common sense. That’s the 1st underlying premise that’s wrong. This notion that folks who need help (= folks who need or want something from others) should be begged to listen to literally life-saving and life-enhancing information. That’s crazy. NO! To paraphrase an old Jackson 5 song, the life they save by listening might be their own! I don’t care if they listen or not—it’s no skin off my nose if they choose to perish in the wilderness of voluntary ignorance.

The “take heed when a potential mentor person pulls your coat” mindset is long gone from most modern African-Americans. There are a handful of under-40 African-Americans that have “old school” values, but they’re not representative of their peers. Far too many African-Americans who are now in their 20s and 30s (and poorly raised by my generation and our older siblings, I will add):

(1) Somehow believe that other people are supposed to beg them to listen to common sense and experience; and tailor the common sense advice so it tickles the younger person’s ears.

(2) Get angry when you tell them anything.

(3) Somehow believe that their (structurally limited, by not having lived on the planet as long) limited life experience is the equal to that of any elder’s or potential mentor’s life experiences.

(4) They don’t listen; but yet they want elders to chase behind them and rescue them from the bad results of their choice not to listen.

Umm . . . no. The real world does not work like this. If you want to join better networks and secure helpful mentors, you have to listen with humility at times.

**ADDENDUM** Let me give a concrete example of what I mean. During the Spare The Rod And Destroy The Child post I repeatedly mentioned that I have never seen the “we don’t ever spank the children” parenting style succeed in raising decent children. I’m in my 40s and I’ve been actively paying attention to how relatives and others have been using various parenting styles for roughly the past 25 years. If you’re a “never spank children” believer who has only been alive for 25 years, that observation I mentioned should have raised some concerns for you.

Let me make it plain: I’ve been watching this “never spank the children” parenting style repeatedly fail for as long as some of you zealous “never spank the children” believers have been alive! I’m not saying that this observation by itself should change anybody’s mind. But it should have given some of the “never spank” believers who haven’t been on the planet as long a reason to step back for a minute. And think. But I noticed that not a single one of the 20-something, or even early 30s “never spank” believers gave that 25-year-long observation the weight or consideration that it deserved. That “as long as their entire lifetime” observation didn’t cause them to slow their roll for even a millisecond. They blew off that observation as if it had never been said. This kind of refusal to pause and listen for a moment is exactly what I’m talking about in this post.

That kind of behavior is not how I was raised. When somebody has been watching a particular phenomenon for as long as I’ve been alive, I listen. I don’t automatically believe or agree with them; but I do step back, sit down, and listen.

July 18, 2010   25 Comments