“Is Opportunity Monopolized?”
Gravitating Toward “Rotten Food”
I’ve been thinking about something that Evia, blog host of Black Female Interracial Marriage Ezine said in a recent post. She said:
Back to bw’s choices: If you put ANY typical person in an environment around only or mostly rotten food and/or they don’t know how to identify rotten food, they ARE going to eat rotten food, no matter how many ways you blame them for eating it, and no matter how you tell them to make better choices.
As Evia stated, much of this has to do with many African-American women growing up surrounded by rotten food. So, they believe it’s normal to eat rotten food. I believe this is also a pop culture detox issue. I believe that much of this also has to do with many African-American women’s core, unspoken beliefs about the world and the nature of reality.
There are the masses of African-Americans who are already lost, and then there’s the smaller group of African-Americans who purportedly know better. I’m talking to those of us who supposedly know better than to participate in certain things or to actively seek out vomit. Many of us intellectually know better on the surface, but still hold certain unexamined core beliefs that orient and guide us toward various types of vomit and rotten food, be it:
Trying to talk to, and reason with, people who have demonstrated that they hate us. This came up during this conversation at the previous blog. Please take the time to read that post and discussion. During that conversation, Halima, blog host of Black Women’s Interracial Relationship Circle, said the following:
You know sometimes I am trying hard to sound the depths of what’s going on in bw’s heads.
I can’t tell you how many times I have happened upon such conversations where a bm has essentially written a comment or response dripping with disdain and anti-bw sentiment, and I am rubbing my hands with expectation that the next bw who comes on will ‘set them straight.’ lo and behold the next bw comes in with a: ‘I agree with you 100% etc etc …’ totally meandering the thinly veiled insult garnished with a sliver of ‘wisdom’(which they decided to respond to)! . I tell you I am almost having a heart attack at this point.
Are these women pretending that they didn’t get the gist or they are really that thick and cant read and comprehend and I am not talking about bw who we all know to be black male identified here, I am talking about sensible, intelligent bw who don’t seem to be desperate to bm-please. I am convinced these women are not thick and know that they have been insulted, because they actually ignore the insulting bits and zone in on the ‘sense’ bit, which shows that they are in filtering mode and are not merely failing to pick up the intent.
These bm are not even trying to hide their disdain when they enter these conversation, it is full on and in evidence that you would have to try very hard not to see it. No doubt what is going on is that bw have their instructions to ‘reframe’ anything bm say and make it something useable, something that can be added into this whole ’dialogue’ effort which bw and bm are supposed to be having over their situation.
Indeed if these women do not reclaim aspects of or clean up these comments, or if they see the comments for just what they really are(and consequently toss them in the bin), then they know they have nothing, no ‘input’ from black men for this so called dialogue.
lets face it, bm are not even speaking and dialoging in any significant or meaningful way over the Bc (and when they do you and I know how it all goes lol), to sustain the delusion that they are and are just itching to do their bit for the BC, any comment is siezed (with thanksgiving) and no matter how disdainful, bw feel they need to read so much sense and good intetnion into it. You can almost picture bw hunched over with magnifying glasses trying to make sense where there is none, and see profound mysteries where there is pure petulance and childishness lol!
It is all about rummaging around in garbage trying to ‘dust off’ or piece together something that they can say, ‘see they are talking with us and they do want to work things out.’ it is the bw self deception in full mode, that makes bw read malice laden comments as real dialogue and respond to it as such.
Also notice that so many bm are guest writers on black female owned blogs or ‘progressive’ blogs etc and when you click on their individual blogs you will find a strong streak of malice running against bw through their entire content (and I am not talking about general male chauvinism here I am talking about real disdain, lack of compassion, consideration and fairness for black women).
Someone indeed needs to check their filter settings because certain folks are getting through! It does really say something about bw’s criteria. You can be sure that no self-respecting white feminist blog/web community would even have such commenters anywhere near them. Note how that male allies of ww have to ‘come correct’ be more advanced in their feminist analysis than even the women, and not just that, they must adopt a conceding posture towards the women. Meanwhile bw make all sorts of allowances until anti-bw bm are comfortably sitting in our discussions.
This sort of behavior only makes sense if a woman believes that verbal abuse from men is the natural order (belief in a scarcity of men who routinely speak to women with respect and even affection).
Remaining within scarcity, “hunt and peck” scenarios.
Desperately clinging to the belief that everybody (non-Blacks and non-Black women in particular) is living within scarcity, “hunt and peck” scenarios.
Actively seeking out and exposing ourselves to vomit-art, vomit-relationship advice books written by Black men who hate Black women, and so on.
Many African-American women gravitate toward rotten food even when we see other people eating from nutritious, delicious buffets! We persist in gravitating to rotten food even when we have access to fresh, healthy food. I believe that most African-Americans hold certain unspoken, core beliefs that orient and guide us toward various types of scarcity and rotten food. One such belief is the notion that scarcity is the natural state of the world. All sorts of otherwise peculiar behavior patterns become not just possible, but probable, when you believe that scarcity is the normal state of the world.
Is Opportunity Monopolized?
I’ve started reading a fascinating 1910 book called The Science of Getting Rich by Wallace D. Wattles. You can download a free copy of the book here. This book formed much of the inspiration for The Secret. Incidentally, I’m not a fan of The Secret, but I try to keep an open mind with materials that might be helpful. I take what’s useful and discard the rest. Anyway, Mr. Wattles asks a profound question. One that I would ask readers to consider:
Is opportunity monopolized?
He goes on to state:
No one is kept poor because other people have monopolized the wealth and have put a fence around it. You may be shut off from engaging in business in certain lines, but there are other channels open to you. At different periods the tide of opportunity sets in different directions, according to the needs of the whole and the particular stage of social evolution which has been reached. There is abundance of opportunity for the person who will go with the tide, instead of trying to swim against it.
This leads to some other questions that we might explore in the future, such as, “What is the ‘tide’ that so many are swimming against? Are there natural rules that govern human social organization and progress, similar to the other rules (such as gravity) that govern the physical world?” But for now, let’s deal with the question of, “Is opportunity monopolized?”
A “Natural” State of Scarcity Is Not Consistent With An Expanding Universe
Modern astronomy holds that the universe is expanding. In an expanding universe . . . on a planet teeming with abundance . . . how do so many African-Americans believe that scarcity is the natural order of things? What’s even more amazing is that those of us who have seen or experienced abundance in some areas of our lives continue to believe that scarcity is the norm. This is because most of us are walking around with an unexamined core belief that scarcity is the normal order of the world. In fact, a belief in scarcity as the norm and the resulting learned helplessness form the cornerstones of conventional wisdom among African-Americans. We touched on this during this conversation at the previous blog.
Scarcity Is Not The Norm, And Is Often The Result of Human Mismanagement
I submit to you that scarcity is not the natural order. Scarcity is the norm if you live in a desert. But the world is not a desert! Usually, scarcity is the result of human mismanagement of resources. Also, the existence of scarcity in an environment is a signal that you should leave that particular environment and seek out abundance. But instead of seeking abundance, so many African-Americans try to convince themselves that the outer world is as barren and nonsupportive of life as the African-American desert.
So you hear us saying things like, “There’s crime everywhere.” Yes, there’s crime everywhere, but other people in the United States are not living with volleys of gunfire in their neighborhoods.
So you hear us saying things like, “Single White women are having problems too.” This is true, but nobody is living like African-Americans with a majority out of wedlock birthrate. Also, White women have problems within the overall context of being protected and provided for by their men and collectives.
The more deranged among us try to pretend the desert is a healthy and life-sustaining environment. And equal to a tropical rainforest in natural resources. So you hear us saying things like, “Single parenting isn’t the problem. Poverty is the problem.” No, single parenting is inherently problematic. This is because, by definition, one half of the children’s primary support network is missing. Come on, now.
What Do You Believe?
I know what I believe about the natural state of the world. This is something that everyone must answer for themselves.
Is opportunity monopolized?
**Audience Note** I’m not going to publish any comments that analyze or discuss the damaged Black men that many of us persist in interacting with, online and in real life. They’re powerless, conquered males who are irrelevant. I’m not interested in these males, or the dynamics driving their abusive behavior. I’m not interested in the fact that these damaged men haunt Black women’s blogs. I’m interested in why so many Black women persist in speaking to them. I’m interested in examining the underlying, core beliefs that make this (and other self-defeating) behavior so prevalent among African-American women, particularly those women who know better.
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