Conquering Adversity: Choose Empowering Meanings for Events

I’ve been studying marketing while building my side businesses. An internet marketer that I’m aware of recently hosted a free webinar about facing adversity. Of course, after the presentation, he made a sales pitch for an e-course that he’s put together. In any event, he had a fascinating conversation with his special guest, a woman named Jennifer Wilkov. Ms. Wilkov is a former financial planner who survived a four-month stint in New York City’s Riker’s Island correctional center. (Shudder—that place is legendary for its violence.)

One of several excellent points the marketer and Ms. Wilkov made during the presentation is that we have the power to choose the meaning we assign to negative events. They weren’t talking about borderline events that can be easily “spun” into being perceived as neutral or better. They were talking about events that are, without any doubt, heavy hits to our lives. We can choose the mental poison of seeing negative events as insurmountable catastrophes; or we can make the more productive choice of seeing them as speed bumps along the way to something good.

We can choose disempowering, devastating meanings to adverse events (“I’ve lost everything . . . My life is over”). Or we can choose empowering meanings to the same events (“I still have my health, my loved ones, my wits, and so on . . . This is a chance to start over, build again, and make it better this time.”)

The choice is ours.

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3 Responses to “Conquering Adversity: Choose Empowering Meanings for Events”

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  2. Kay says:

    Hello Khadija,

    You are a life line. I hope to reflect on this post the next time I want to have a pity part about one of the obstacles I am enduring right now. There’s hope out there. I just need to open my mind to the possibilities, opportunities and work-arounds that life has to offer.



  3. Kay,

    Thank you for your kind words about the post; I truly appreciate it. It’s easy to live in Pity City and host pity parties. Training oneself to have more productive reactions is hard, but worth it.

    Peace, blessings and solidarity.